Introduction

If you or someone close to  suffered the loss of a pregnancy or miscarriage this could be the start of your recovery. Welcome to the Walk With Jude 7 steps.

The Steps are the beginning of recovery, the start of a journey surrounded by healing.  This is a journey of self awareness, acceptance and action.  We are starting the steps to find a way to make our lives better and our families stronger.  To learn how to live and embrace our situations so they form our lives, not manage them.  The steps have been built from a foundation of hope, support and spirituality.  As you make your way through this journey, you will notice your self love will increase and your self doubt may dissipate.  You will read lots of words like acceptance, loss and letting go.  Right now they are only words.  If you work these steps to the best of your ability these words become more than just hope, support and spirituality, they become a way of life.  The steps themselves are in a specific order for a specific purpose, so start at step one and ask out loud, can your heart and your mind be opened? It will be difficult and perhaps cause more pain if you work them out of order. You will need to find some power greater than you to help find some courage and support.  Go gently.

Walk with Jude 7 steps

1. I am powerless over today and my thinking has become manageable.
   
   Awareness, H.A.L.T., Powerlessness, Guilt and 3 C’s
   
   
2. Find and Believe in a power greater than yourself, to free you from the pain of your loss.
   
   Spirituality, Surrender and Acceptance
   
   
3. Develop a Fearless conscious contact with yourself.
   
   Fear, Contact, Listening and Action
   
   
4. Share your story with a trusted friend and your Higher Power.
   
   Trust and Self Care
   
   
5. Make Amends
   
   Apology vs. Amends and Forgiveness
   
   
6. Walk With Jude every day
   
   Motivation and Behaviours
   
   
7. Offer help to others through sharing your Courage, Strength and Hope.
   
   Courage, Strength and Hope

At first glance the Walk with Jude 7 steps may look unnecessary or confusing and what does this have to do with miscarriage?

For many years a step approach has been used in different types from recovery, from addiction to grief. Steps put simply are just a way of living our lives. They can make getting through each day at time much easier. You need not ever feel alone again and your reactions or emotions can be helped by 7 simple steps.

The 7 steps can be basically split into 4 areas.

1. Our reactions or emotions have become unmanageable or at least difficult to live with. We can start to look at the truth of what has happened and find some hope. The Walk with Jude 7 steps could allow you to move forward to a place of comfort and recovery.
2. A Power greater than ourselves, what ever that may be ( a tree, music, the beach, the moon and stars or even God) can help you to recover and not feel so hurt and empty again. This will require a huge amount of acceptance for some of you, I know it did me. Trust was a very big issue.
3. We can look at our attitudes and decide if they are real, or has our thinking become distorted by our emotions or thinking. Look at forgiving ourselves and may be others and start to Walk With Jude.
4. Keep giving back by sharing your experiences of courage, strength and hope.

Keeping an open mind and living one day, one moment or one step at a time will help.

You can walk these 7 steps as and when you want and at your own pace. You can do this alone, but I using recommend a trusted friend to help.

Take some time to recover physically, emotionally and spiritually after your loss and when you feel ready begin. If today doesn’t feel right, wait and try tomorrow. But, remember Acceptance, Awareness and Action are the key and go easy on your self.

Here is the How.

My suggestions are below, but remember this is your recovery not mine, so you can find your own methods.

• Read the Step completely and see what this brings up for you. What causes you anger or pain, what gives you comfort, what makes you cry and make a mental note of this?
• Try the questions and see where this takes you, feel your feelings. You may want to write this down somewhere.
• Perhaps use the Walk With Jude Forum, Share You Story or a friend to discuss what you have discovered.
• Even when this may seem pointless or hopeless, just bear with it. Remember recovery does not happen overnight.
• When you feel you have explored each step move to the next, it is also fine to move back and forth until you feel comfortable.

Good luck, my support and thoughts are with you.

Judith