Offer help to others through sharing your courage, strength and hope.

The sharing of experiences, particularly the hard ones with others brings us to a whole new level of recovery.

In the first 3 Steps we learn to trust something we can’t even see. In the next Steps we learn to trust someone else and in the last Steps we start to trust ourselves and what we have accomplished.

By sharing, our reactions and actions change. There is not part of us that will not be touched positively by passing on what we have endured. Some of us feel intimidated by the thought of sharing so much of ourselves with others, that’s okay. Most of us just want to be heard by another who has been where we have. We are not always looking for the answers or solutions, just a person to hear our story. Sharing encourages and shapes our ability to see the positive or the good in each day.

Throughout our recovery we start to learn how to deal with ourselves and others, we find what we like and what we don’t. We are giving our own courage, strength and hope to others often without knowing it. Hearing the experiences of others not only reminds us of how far we have journeyed, but our grief can become more manageable.

So, where is this elusive courage, strength and hope. It has been there all the time. If you have been through a miscarriage this is one of the greatest legacies that you receive. Even during incredible odds we can still find hope. We look for it around every corner, in every piece of literature we read and at every doctor’s appointment. Our ability to find hope is astounding to many. There are days that we feel we have lost all hope and when the pregnancy has gone then it is an inevitable feeling. Still we manage to move on, breath, eat and maybe sleep every day. For other women suffering, this is what they need to hear in order to find hope. This you need to share.  “If I can do it, you can do it”.

Courage and strength are linked together in your process of recovery. A woman who has lost a child and indeed fathers too, are asked to dig incredibly deep. We find a strength of mind that enables us endure, but not necessarily over come your adversity. This shows incredible courage.  Lucius Annaeau Seneca once said “Sometimes to live as an act of courage”. After a miscarriage life can be raw and painful. But, courage can be a gift. It keeps us going, putting one step in front of the other, even when we take two back.  We need to try to not lose ourselves in the pain and just breathe. Not all women and their families go through this kind of trauma. The experience is not one you would want to repeat, but it makes you special. You can help another. The greatest chance of recovery from anything comes from the ability to share with someone who you know has been there too. You know that they know how you feel. That common bond is what makes us truly human.

Suggested questions and thoughts

• What does Hope look like to you today?
• Are you afraid of being judged by others, is so how?
• Can you share your successes and failures with others?
• Where do you think your courage, strength and hope comes from today?
• We are sharing experiences, not giving advice.

How far have you Walked With Jude today?