I have been working very hard recently trying to move on with my life. My husband and I separated over the summer after 3 years of marriage. For me this was an incredibly hard choice, but 3 and half months on, I believe it was the best path to take.

I have little anger, but lots of sadness and some regret. I'm sad that the marriage had to end and I do miss what I hoped we would of had. I do regret some the methods I used to try and fix a broken situation. I am not proud of how I behaved at times, But I have to try and move on and learn from all this. What would be the point of the last 2 years of pain and anxiety, if I dont try and learn something.

This always brings me back to Step 1 - I am powerless over a great deal and my thinking does become unmanageable.

I am powerless over, my regrets - they are in the past, the behaviour of my ex husband, the opinions of others, the anger that my daughter has etc etc. This does not mean that I dont take responsibilty for my actions. But, if I am truly powerless then I have to let this go and not allow it to let me start thinking obsessively about the past. I have started to write down each night what I have been powerless over during the day, I then look at what I could of done differently. If I did the best I could, I have to let it go.

The other method I use is to talk my thinking out with a friend. I try to chat with a trusted friend every couple of days. I ask them to listen to my insane thinking. I'm not necessarily looking for answers or opinions, just another human being. I realised that I had become very disconnected from friends and had isolated myself over the summer. I was ashamed about failing in my marriage and worst of all, that I was a bad example to my daughter. I have discovered that I am powerless over this too.

Can you let go of something today?

Warmest Wishes

Judith P